In Sickness and In Health

Ever have one of those days where you woke up and felt like a truck had hit your face? And not just any truck, but one carrying the flu, mad cow, and Ebola all at once? Yes, you guessed it, I have contracted the common cold.

Now normally I am not the type of guy to complain or make a fuss about something as simple as a cold. But this time I knew my roommate had given it to me, and on top of work, I had a very full day planned.  I couldn’t make breakfast, workout, get my programming done, or even go to work. In other words, my was was ruined. It was all his fault.

I wanted to drive down to my roommate’s workplace, and yell at him for being so inconsiderate as to transmit his germs to the rest of the house, and consequently me as well. It’s only befitting that he suffer a verbal and/or physical assault on top of his own sickness for his crimes against my body right?

But as I slumped out of bed, and down the stairs, I realized something incredible. My arms and legs still worked, my brain was functioning properly, and my heart was pumping blood to the rest of my body. But how could this be? Clearly my respiratory track has been infiltrated by nasopharyngitis, and I was all but destined to an early death. Yet, there I was, continuing to go about my day.

Then came one of my greater epiphanies to date…..all I have…..is a cold. A simple, non threatening, slightly annoying, common inconvenience. So I decided to say a major F*** you to my symptoms, put my head down, and power through this lovely 70 degree day like I had planned.

I made an amazing bowl of steel cut, raspberry and blueberry topped oatmeal, got my stereo fixed, ran 2.5 miles, went HAM at the gym, and i’m getting my programming done as I write this. All without my throat exploding, or collapsing from nasal congestion.

The moral of the story here folks (and to dive into the title of this post) is that often, we treat our lives like it’s just something that we have been given and it will always be there. We take our lives for granted and sometimes just go through the same motions day after day without putting any effort into it. That’s usually the root cause of so many people being unhappy with their lives.

People make decisions every day that they know they are unhappy with and that won’t really fulfill them in any significant way. They just try and get by with the bare minimums of all aspects of their existence. Then, they gripe and complain about how undesirable their current situations are, and how they wish that somehow things could be different. What’s really going on there is a subconscious forfeiting of sorts. They are basically deciding not to care very much anymore.

My thought process today reminded me a lot of a relationship. Sure, in the beginning, you are happy with your significant other, and you go out of your way to make each other happy and build a solid foundation. But slowly, some of us lose that drive, stop putting in effort, and the quality of those relationships starts to deteriorate.

And I think our lives can be a parallel to those relationships, and ultimately, even a marriage. Where the success level is proportionate to the amount of desire those involved have to make it work . So this morning, I “vowed” to keep trying, pushing forward,  and always find silver linings in my life. I know it won’t always be easy, but my life and I are stuck together for a very long time, so I’m going to honor it, and do my best to make the most out of what we have. In sickness and in health.

Kenneth D.W Marshall

Loves long walks on the beach!
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