That’s the big reveal.
You don’t even have to read the rest of this article to know that.
Fear of the unknown, being out of control, what others might think of you, and failure, are the only things holding you back from winning.
How do I know?
Those fears are why i’ve spent most of my life not pursuing things I love like music and writing. I figured they weren’t “practical” enough or that I wouldn’t have what it takes so why even try?
You’re doing the same.
A Little Backstory
I’ve always lived what most of you would consider a typical life.
I grew up on a posh hill in an upper middle class environment. Two lovely parents. Went to a nationally recognized school, always got As and Bs, worked while I went to university, graduated, and got a good job in a field with huge potential.
Sounds like the formula for success right?
Not even close.
Every single step of the way I was never able to celebrate my successes. I was never content with my progress or the direction I was heading in.
My heart kept telling me that what I was doing was a trap. That i’ve seen so many go down the road I was about to embark on and despite their success on paper, they weren’t really living.
I was doing everything I was supposed to, and almost nothing that I ever wanted to.
In my earlier days I had no idea what else I would do or how to do it. I’m not some kind of genius like Mark Zuckerberg, a natural born hustler like Gary Vaynerchuk, or someone who’s had a passion in their heart since birth like Elon Musk.
But i’ve always known I wanted to build a business where I can impact others and share my vision with the world.
As an ambitious young man, that’s a tough place to be in mentally.
So while I worked on figuring out that out, I kept grinding, leveling up and building my skill set until the day when opportunity would knock.
That landed me at my current company. It’s a small digital marketing agency in my home town where I work as an SEO. The owner is incredibly intelligent, my coworkers are all awesome human beings, everyone is amazing at their job, and it’s positive and engaging environment.
Still, a single day didn’t go by where I didn’t want to be out on my own, grinding and hustling on my own path.
Another tough place to be in. I am grateful for every opportunity in my life, but it never felt right.
If you work a full time job, you’re not an entrepreneur. You may have entrepreneurial tendencies, you may have aspirations to be an entrepreneur. But when you’re an entrepreneur, you can’t breathe while having a job.
Whoa. Uppercut straight to the jaw.
He was right. It was at that moment that I knew things were going to be different. I made three huge decisions for my future:
- In 3 months I would move down to San Diego (my dream place to live)
- No matter how I had to accomplish it, I would not work for anyone ever again
- Sell half of my things, buy a 4 wheel drive adventure mobile, live lean, and reject possessions in favor of awesome experiences
There was no turning back.
Why I Quit and Why Most Of You Won’t Make A Change
You know what it feels like to drown?
To not have enough air? To struggle against a force that has you beat no matter what you try to do to escape?
That’s how I’ve felt almost every single day of my life since I was 19.
I love to work hard, but doing it for another company always made me feel like I was suffocating. When I was younger it was easier to suppress, but the older I got, the worse it got too. Working for someone else was never meant to be a part of my future.
I’ve got a blog that I’d love to scale, the skill set to help businesses enhance their web presence, and a string of products that are begging to be brought to life. With concentrated effort, I know those things could provide me with a stable future.
It is a fact that you have at least one skill, hobby, or idea of something you could be doing to make money for yourself, or that would transform your life and fulfill you.
I knew it was time to get out and go for my dreams because I only saw a life of fleeting happiness and regret ahead of me if I didn’t.
You may not feel that strongly, but I know some of you are not content with your job or your life. It’s eating you away slowly but surely and you’re not doing a single thing about it.
Like I said before, there is only one thing holding you back.
Fear is at the root of most people’s lack of pursuing things in this world that they know will make them significantly more content with their lives.
I used to be afraid of what others thought of me, of being broke, of not being good enough.
Not anymore. There’s only one thing i’m afraid of now.
Go talk to any older man who worked for 30 years at a job he hated to provide for his family from a young age.
He’ll tell you all about how terrible of a feeling regret is to live with. My plea for you is to read and understand the following three things.
It will change your life.
1. There is no “right” or “perfect” time to get started
So many of you are paralyzed with asking that cute person at your office out on a date, starting the band you’ve always wanted, or moving to your dream place because you’re waiting.
Waiting for the time when the world will present the perfect opportunity and all the stars align in your favor.
Spoiler alert: It’s never going to happen that way.
Life is turbulent. The world is always changing. Nothing is certain, and the things that seem concrete aren’t going to be for long.
The key is to make decisions quickly and with your best judgement. Then be willing to adapt quickly and not stop until you’ve achieved what you set out to.
Let your ambition be your guide. Stop letting fear of failure stop you from even trying. It’s obviously not working.
2. Following what you’re passion about and using your strengths are the keys to success
Passion isn’t just some cliche’ that dreamers tell themselves to feel better about mundane life. It’s the fuel that drives all successful people.
When you have vision and passion, it’s like having a road map for your life.
Sometimes the specific paths you have to take are going to take some figuring out and you’re almost certainly going to get lost. But you’ll always know what direction you’re heading in.
Having that flame inside of you and propelling you forward is also going to keep you motivated when you feel like giving up.
It’s hard to work on something everyday, after you’re already tired from the rest of your life, unless it’s something you love.
Knowing exactly who you are is a huge part of that too. I truly believe that some things aren’t worth pursuing.
If you’re going into a career, dating someone, or wanting to start a company because of others’ expectations or simply because it sounds practical, you will never have long term success.
There’s got to be a deeper reason. Your desire has to be based around things that you already do, that you dream about, that you’ve always been told you’re good at. That’s the victory zone.
The only hard part is to learn (or remember for some of you) what those passions and skills are.
3. You can always restart, and go back to your old life
The potentially worse thing that can happen in any given situation, in actuality, is almost never as bad as you think it will be.
You’ve got to realize that if you take two years to pursue a passion, start a new job, go travel the world, or whatever else, and it’s a disaster…
You can easily rebuild your old life that you hated. You can find another similar job. You can find another apartment. You can always order another years subscription of Netflix.
All of those old aspects of your life are easy to achieve. That’s why the majority of society has them.
If your job as a mid level accountant, $3000 mortgage, and rec basketball team spot were such once in a lifetime opportunities, then there wouldn’t be hundreds of thousands of people in the same position.
If it’s what you were supposed to be doing all along, then it won’t be hard to go back to if your dream doesn’t work out.
Being afraid to lose what you have is nonsense if what you have isn’t something you love.
I want all of you to win. As bad as I have the drive inside of myself to win. It’s possible. All you have to do is decide, follow that voice inside you telling you where to go, and keep going. That’s it.