There are four major things that I learned today that lead to not being stressed out all the time.
I learned them from a child at Starbucks.
His name was Little Timmy.
A Life Uninhibited By Worries
Little Timmy is about 6 years old.
He’s running around Starbucks, making friends with everyone, laughing, singing at the top of his lungs, climbing on stuff, and generally doing everything in his power to ensure that his mother’s head is full of grey hairs by the time she’s 45.
Today, Timmy has decided that Starbucks is both his personal play place and playmate as well.
The world is his oyster. Not only does he not care what anyone around him thinks of him, his words, or his actions, but he also thrives off of the attention. Little Timmy,(much like the honey badger) just doesn’t care.
He has been here for 20 minutes and literally hasn’t stopped smiling. Every moment that passes by seems to be the new most exciting moment of his life. It’s captivating, inspiring, AND JUST DOWNRIGHT ADORABLE.
I miss that.
That pure and uninhibited expression of emotion. The way that he truly is acting in a way that mirrors his thoughts and feelings. How passionate and unapologetic he goes about his day. These are all qualities that almost all of us possess early on as children.
Stress Doesn’t Exist To Kids
Children typically don’t care what outfit they are going to wear. They don’t meticulously try and map out their choice of words or actions to try and please others around them. And they almost always are enjoying themselves.
Yes, I know that they don’t yet have any real responsibilities, and life hasn’t yet preyed on their happiness with all of it’s tried and true methods of being a complete dick. But there is still something amazing to be said about the special kind of openness that kids exhibit.
I often wish that I could be more like that. That I wasn’t so jaded by the negative experiences of the past, or so hardened to my true feelings and desires. Or that I didn’t try so hard to impress anyone other than myself.
The joker put it best, “why so serious?” And seriously, why? Being uptight and worrying all the time just creates stress. In my opinion more adults need to start acting like their younger selves again. Our time is precious, our lives are relatively short, and we only get one go around at them.
I say we all should be a bit more like little Timmy. Wearing our ninja turtles t-shirt and light up sketchers, no silly worries, and blissfully terrorizing patrons at our own Starbucks.
If you’d like to be more like Timmy, here’s how.
How To Not Be Stressed Out
After you read this, you’re going to wonder why you ever went so long stressing out about things. That’s very understandable. But don’t be discouraged. It’s time to turn over a new leaf. Follow these steps to learn exactly how to be stress free:
1. Take A Deep Breath
I am absolutely serious.
Actually taking the time to stop, think, and step outside of being in the moment of whatever you’re feeling at the time, can help calm you down.
It will allow you to think more rationally about what it is that is stressing you out and decide if it’s actually worth the headache or not.
2. Compare It To The Worst Thing You Can Think Of
Perspective can be a really powerful mental device when used correctly, or if a proper one is missing, can be the source of a ton of stress.
Really take the time to ask yourself “is this really as bad as i’m making it out to be?”
If the answer is yes, and it is the literal worst thing that has ever happened to you, then proceed to freak out about it. But most of the time, after doing this step, you will come to realize that what you’re going through might not be ideal, but it’s certainly not worth all the trouble you’re putting yourself through.
3. Stop Caring About What Everyone Else Thinks
Yes, it does sound really cliche, but this can not be more true.
Trying to live up to other people’s expectations of you, constantly trying to please others or live up to their standards, and even comparing yourself to what you think someone else might want you to be is enough to drive anyone insane.
Whenever you are feeling anxious or stressed out about something, ask yourself if it has to do with someone else’s expectations or perception of you first. If it does, then take a mental step back, and evaluate if that something actually matters that much to you as well.
If it doesn’t, then you’re good to go. It’s not worth worrying about. If it does, then make sure to approach changing or pursuing it in a healthy way, and on your own time. Caring about personal development is a good thing, but not at the expense of your own mental well being.
4. Do One Thing To Make Yourself Happy Every Day
This is the most important step of all.
All too often we get so caught up in our responsibilities, routines, and the demands of our day to day lives, we forget to even have fun and do things to enjoy ourselves.
I’m not saying that you need to forgo every commitment you’ve made up until this point, but it is important to take time out of each day to do something directly for your own benefit.
Examples can include:
- Making one of your favorite snacks
- Reading a good book
- Watching a show on Netflix
- Taking a walk on the beach
- Seeing a friend or loved one
The main point is just to remind yourself to dedicate time to your own happiness each and every day. It will help recharge your battery from all the pressures of the day, and chip away at your potential stress reserves.